by Emily

I was talking to a male student about a story I’m writing and about how I’m thinking of changing my male point-of-view character into a female, lesbian character. I offhandedly mentioned that the character’s favorite foods are pizza and cereal, and my acquaintance said, “Oh, so she’s one of those lesbians.” I replied, “I’m not sure exactly what you mean by ‘those lesbians,’ but I feel like it might be offensive to someone.” He laughed awkwardly and clarified that he meant a “butch lesbian,” and I argued that that term seemed derogatory the way he said it and that “anyone can like eating pizza and cereal.” He shrugged and didn’t pursue the point.