Daily Sexist Microaggressions

Tag: ridiculous

From 4-21-16

When describing a twenty-something male who posts emotional things on Facebook, an adult female said, “He’s more of a girl than a guy!”


From 4-12-16

My younger sister’s college communications class had students sorting activities as “male” or “female.” The “male” activities were all power-related, and the “female” activities were about homemaking and submission.

My sister walked out.

From 2-13-16

The bathroom signs in a movie theater. Of course the female version is curvy.

From 1-19-16

A story from one of my graduate classes:

There are seven people in my magazine publishing class: six females, one male. We’re doing a project where we have to create a magazine for a particular topic. Everyone brought in two or three ideas, and we voted on them until we had a top contender: a career magazine for middle-school/high-school girls.

Six of the seven people in the class wanted this topic. The one hold-out was the male member of our group. When our professor (also male, though that doesn’t matter) asked the student what his reservations were, he told some sprawling story about not getting magazines as a kid and feeling like girls had more than he did. And he “didn’t want to feel excluded” from our project.

I was actually struck speechless. I don’t think I can begin to explain privilege to a white male in 2016 America, so I was glad a fellow female classmate spoke up. She told him, as politely as I feel she could have: “I’m sorry, but feeling like you aren’t included in a magazine project is not as serious as feeling like you aren’t included in the world.”

From 2-10-15

After telling a male that I had burnt my hand on my hair straightener, he asked me, “Do I need to take one of your girl cards?”

Yes, because 1) that’s a thing, and 2) that’s not idiotic and sexist.

From 2-3-15

While out at Target with my boyfriend, we passed the children’s Valentine’s cards section. I started talking about how annoying it was that there seemed to be a delineation between “for girls” cards (pink, princesses, puppies, etc.) and “for boys” cards (blue, Ninja Turtle, Avengers, etc.). I was loudly wondering why it even mattered when a mother walked up with her young son, probably age 4 or 5. She asked him which cards he would like to get for his class, and he immediately grabbed the Ninja Turtles ones. She said, “Are those for boys or for girls?”, and I tried hard not to visibly fume. The little boy promptly replied, “They’re for both.”

He would have been happy at that. Honestly, this is how easy it is. Kids don’t care. They think something is cool and that all their friends will like it regardless of its design. The mother fought her son into something she seemed to deem more “gender-neutral,” and I could have screamed. It was a learning moment ruined by someone’s buy-in to societal norms. Just stop already, people. It’s not as hard as you’re trying to make it.